Congruent strategies for meeting college/univ. girls (even if you're not a student)
#1
Note: This is a quick revised version of a Data Sheet I wrote on RVF. 

Goal: Meeting college and university girls in a way that is congruent with your interests in life (better strategy and use of your time). This sheet can also work for guys who may not even be students themselves, or find themselves older than the avg. student. 

First, let's list some strategies we've all heard that I do not consider optimal: 

- Scheduling studying with girls
- Joining a sports league solely for better ratios of women (i.e. volleyball, badminton, etc. or anything you don't intrinsically enjoy)
- Taking classes you don't need or classes you don't find interesting for better ratios of women

The problem with all of the above is that you're not aligning meeting women with your own journey and mission in life. You're clearly forcing yourself into situations in the hope that sheer exposure will allow you to meet girls. 

Now, for better strategy and use of your time, I'll try to cover some areas I haven't seen much on the various forums:


School Clubs

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I can't stress this enough, join a shit ton of school clubs, and use what extra time you have during the dates when they are promoting to meet people at their booths. For other guys reading this post, many clubs don't actually require you to be a student or alumni (depends on your school) since they are involved in the community. Some guys don't get this at first, and think too logically "Oh, well I'll never be able to commit to all these clubs, or I may not enjoy that activity once I try it".

That's not the point. You get put on email lists or FB groups for all the events with contact info. You go to the ones that work for you, and have an instant starting point for meeting new people. There is no obligation to ever show up, and the cost for a full year is minimal. I see so much talk on here about learning new languages (i.e. software, tutors, etc. for Spanish) or visiting new countries, but I can't remember the last time someone suggested joining that specific language/cultural club at the local campus. People often meet international students as well that give them great leads and info for other countries. 

I dated a girl I met through Scuba club years ago, and at the time I joined, I had never dived before, and didn't know if I'd really get into it. I just originally thought that Scuba was cool and was on my list for trying "eventually".

Also, clubs have budgets that admin prefers they use up within that school year. If you're concerned about money, keep in mind that depending on how many people sign up, or how many remain, you get hook ups that might even be worth much more than the cost to sign up. For example, if you wanted to learn Salsa, the college/university clubs are almost always cheaper options than paying through a studio or private dance instructor. 

Hell, you can even suggest your own parties, or recommend going to a bar/club on certain nights. If you don't want to take the time to have a formal "position" in the club (not necessary), this is a great way to take the lead, and organize various gatherings, and even combine clubs or your own social circles.

Think of how great it would feel to know that on a certain night, you have multiple clubs or friend circles, all coming to your place, or a spot you have on lock. Espicially where it's guaranteed they'll also be bringing people that you haven't met, but they feel comfortable, since they have an "in" with you. The younger crowd usually gets their first taste of event planning in college, so you can even offer to help them with certain ones too from a position of experience (i.e. I got asked to help with a sorority fashion show last minute and had my drinks comped for the afterparty).

I'm sure there's more I could expand on here, but these are enough of a foundation for this area...



In Class (if you're a student)

Forget studying together. The goal here is quantity, not depth. You want to be the guy who has the confident, witty comments (if speaking to prof. or in front of class), and can go beyond small talk to make things more personal (i.e. if sitting together during lectures). No need to work on one girl you sit besides all semester till she's telling you her boyfriend problems. You've heard the term "work husbands"? Well girls often have in class boyfriend types to help them and give them attention.

You should be doing enough to get your name out, be memorable, and get contact info for later.

This allows you to again take the lead on organizing if you're not going direct, "We should all meet for a drink after this exam is done!"

Or, when you're outside class, and happen to see each other, there is a pretext for talking, introducing her friends, etc. Don't be the guy who opens at the bar with "Hey, I know we never talked, but I remember you from biology last year."

The way I see it, waiting most of a semester to make a move on a girl is like it's own form of one-itis. This only makes sense if it's a situation with someone who has authority and you have to wait until the class is officially finished (i.e. teaching assistants, lab staff, professors, etc.)


Campus Events (again, you often don't need to be a student):

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This is for stuff that doesn't already occur through school clubs. I'm talking guest lecturers, film nights, theatre plays, sports games, concerts, etc. Check the cafeterias (you're already there opening, right?) and main communal areas for flyers, and pick up copies of the school newspaper. This is good once again for targeting niches or certain social circles, and many of the same points apply here that I mentioned for school clubs. The difference being that these are often one shot events, and you can approach more, and more directly, than school clubs. Get there early, get some introductions done, then you can follow up after the event, and bounce somewhere else, or host an impromptu afterparty if there isn't one already in place.


TLDR: Some of the above will be common sense for certain guys, but I've found that these areas can be an intersection of hobbies, interesting pursuits, socializing, saving money, etc. 

The most important part is that you're living a life that you want, and just making a few minor changes to increase your optionality around meeting people. 
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(11-21-2019, 03:23 AM)LeBeau Wrote: First, let's list some strategies we've all heard that I do not consider optimal: 

- Scheduling studying with girls
- Joining a sports league solely for better ratios of women (i.e. volleyball, badminton, etc. or anything you don't intrinsically enjoy)
- Taking classes you don't need or classes you don't find interesting for better ratios of women

The problem with all of the above is that you're not aligning meeting women with your own journey and mission in life. You're clearly forcing yourself into situations in the hope that sheer exposure will allow you to meet girls. 

This is some clear thinking and should be read twice by anybody who is trying to figure out their college years.

I can vouch for school clubs. Taking a small leadership role in one for something to do when I took some classes at a community college bagged me a stripper, a professor, and the daughter of a woman working in the liberal arts office. They're fast ways to connect with people who will assume you have something in common.
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(11-21-2019, 01:41 PM)Jetset Wrote:
(11-21-2019, 03:23 AM)LeBeau Wrote: First, let's list some strategies we've all heard that I do not consider optimal: 

- Scheduling studying with girls
- Joining a sports league solely for better ratios of women (i.e. volleyball, badminton, etc. or anything you don't intrinsically enjoy)
- Taking classes you don't need or classes you don't find interesting for better ratios of women

The problem with all of the above is that you're not aligning meeting women with your own journey and mission in life. You're clearly forcing yourself into situations in the hope that sheer exposure will allow you to meet girls. 

This is some clear thinking and should be read twice by anybody who is trying to figure out their college years.

I can vouch for school clubs. Taking a small leadership role in one for something to do when I took some classes at a community college bagged me a stripper, a professor, and the daughter of a woman working in the liberal arts office. They're fast ways to connect with people who will assume you have something in common.

Authority / power figures (no matter how seemingly trivial) definitely tap straight into the female attraction triggers. Its why even a nebbish  lit professor can get pussy served up on a platter
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(11-21-2019, 09:02 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:
(11-21-2019, 01:41 PM)Jetset Wrote:
(11-21-2019, 03:23 AM)LeBeau Wrote: First, let's list some strategies we've all heard that I do not consider optimal: 

- Scheduling studying with girls
- Joining a sports league solely for better ratios of women (i.e. volleyball, badminton, etc. or anything you don't intrinsically enjoy)
- Taking classes you don't need or classes you don't find interesting for better ratios of women

The problem with all of the above is that you're not aligning meeting women with your own journey and mission in life. You're clearly forcing yourself into situations in the hope that sheer exposure will allow you to meet girls. 

This is some clear thinking and should be read twice by anybody who is trying to figure out their college years.

I can vouch for school clubs. Taking a small leadership role in one for something to do when I took some classes at a community college bagged me a stripper, a professor, and the daughter of a woman working in the liberal arts office. They're fast ways to connect with people who will assume you have something in common.

Authority / power figures (no matter how seemingly trivial) definitely tap straight into the female attraction triggers. Its why even a nebbish  lit professor can get pussy served up on a platter
For all the me too cases where you hear professors getting in trouble for sleeping with their students, there are tens of thousands of examples where the exchange is mutually beneficial.
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#5
If you live in a city, just go out and there will be hundreds of college girls out drinking.
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#6
What I'm trying to figure out is how to be the guest lecturer and pick up.

I speak at and attend a couple events per year at the local university. It's for a student club for people who want to get into my line of work. I'm not concerned about shitting where I work since these students will have to do more schooling and probably won't settle in the university town that I'm located.

At an event last week a few cute undergrads asked me for business cards and about opportunities to shadow. What's the best strategy to turn that from a shadowing situation to a banging situation?
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(11-23-2019, 02:12 AM)Agrippa Wrote: What I'm trying to figure out is how to be the guest lecturer and pick up.

I speak at and attend a couple events per year at the local university. It's for a student club for people who want to get into my line of work. I'm not concerned about shitting where I work since these students will have to do more schooling and probably won't settle in the university town that I'm located.

At an event last week a few cute undergrads asked me for business cards and about opportunities to shadow. What's the best strategy to turn that from a shadowing situation to a banging situation?

There you go. Those undergrads are just one dose of plausible deniability away from a bang opportunity. 

When they ask for your card treat it as an IOI and play on...discreetly of course

Whats great about it is youre starting out with the advantage of authority figure and social proof
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#8
Yeah, what are you waiting for? They are thinking about banging you somewhat or wouldn't have asked to shadow you all day. Invite one over, have drinks after work, take it from there.
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