Bachelor Pad Thread

[Jetset]

I'm reverting to form and moving into an industrial loft. As I start outfitting the place, I realized we don't have a thread on this topic yet for those of us who are less nomadic. Hopefully this'll become a good place to discuss player-friendly amenities, furniture selection, etc.

The malelivingspace subreddit is a place to start for ideas:

https://www.reddit.com/r/malelivingspace/

Also going to include a couple of classic RVF datasheets and posts, re-posted without permission but for posterity:

https://www.rooshvforum.com/archive/inde...57853.html

The bachelor pad should be as unique as the man.

I see a lot of guys asking questions about setting up a bachelor pad, so I thought I'd throw together a quick guide to help dudes out there.

Source: I once lived unhappily with a bitter wife, used/mismatched furniture, and nothing really of my own. I now live in a sweet pad where everything is mine, it’s set up how I want, and has the things I want in it. My place of living and the items within are only there to bring me happiness.

Bedroom

• Large bed (not twin), big enough to stretch out by yourself, alternatively to have a guest (or two) join you. I recommend a Ghost Bed, very comfortable, doesn’t get hot, and absorbs impact.
  
• Lighting - one source of light within arms reach of the bed, another wherever there’s a need for light.
  
• I also recommend thermal curtains in whatever color scheme you go for (mine are black to fit my theme). Nothing drives me nuts more than blinding sunlight streaming into my face when I’m trying to take a nap or sleep off a hangover. My bedroom is dark at night. I do not want my sleep interrupted.
  
• A hamper. Clothes lying everywhere is pretty unattractive, and I've had a few women mention that it's a turn off. I've also noticed that my dog will destroy socks if I leave them out.
  

This is where having a uniform color scheme comes in handy. Plan ahead when buying sheets/blankets/pillowcovers - I personally only go for solid black, gray, or white. It doesn’t matter if I use one color for pillows, one color for the fitted sheet and yet a different color for the sheet on top, it all goes together and looks just fine. No random combinations of burnt orange, green, and blue. For pillows I have a couple I bought from Target that are just the usual cheap stuff, but the one my head goes on every night is a TempurPedic Dual Cooling pillow. I have four sets that I rotate through, order doesn’t matter because it all goes together. I also have two duvets that match that color scheme that I swap when I do laundry.

Kitchen
Besides the three essentials (stove, fridge, sink) I have three major pieces in my kitchen

       

• Keurig - Coffee, tea, hot chocolate, soup, cider… Whatever the situation calls for at a moment's notice. I order the big variety packs every so often and have abig selection for myself and guests to choose from.
  
• Crockpot - A 6 gallon one, to be exact. I can make a weeks worth of chili, stew, pulled pork, you name it and have my lunch ready to go without much thought or effort.
  
• Aerogarden - Right now I have three of these in the kitchen, two 3-pods with herbs and one 7-pod with a variety of salad greens that I usually supplement with a bag of spinach from the store. Works perfect and adds a unique touch. Good talking point, too. People always ask questions about them and love the fresh touch it adds meals if you’re cooking. It’s also really nice to have fresh cut dill when I make some salmon for myself.
  
• Spend the money to invest in a decent set of silverware.
  Setting a theme here is important as well, no mismatched collection, I like being planned and intentional, and I want the place I live to represent me as such. To that effect I have stainless steel strainer, mixing bowls, and pots and pans.
  
• For knives I keep a Calphalon 15 piece self sharpening knife set.
  The plates and bowls keep with the theme, black and gray. No weird set of colors or anything like that, if a few break over time I can replace them without having weird mismatched sets because everything is following an easy basic theme.
  I keep a few bottles of wine on a simple wine rack for whenever I feel like cracking one open or having guests over.
  
  Living Room
  I work really hard to keep my living room from becoming cluttered. I have a long couch that I can layout on without being at some weird angle, and a TV big enough that I don’t have to squint to see from the couch. Again, I keep to a simple theme. Black leather couch, black coffee table, gray and black bookshelves, gray and black tv stand, (noticing a theme yet?) For the blank wall behind my couch, I hung a big gray and black throw blanket with a celtic design on it. I also keep a gray blanket on the couch (which my dog loves more than I do, to be honest).
  
  Bathroom
  
• Matching set of towels/washcloth (keep extra towels, those things come in handy all the damn time!)
  
  Your place should represent you, after all you live there. You spend most of your time there. Want to be the guy who lives in knee-deep beer cans and cheap liquor bottles with a laundry room full of half empty pizza boxes? No thanks (and yes, I know that guy and want to be nothing like him). Want to be the guy who has mastered his own life, has a direction planned out, and has easily identified interests, values, and hobbies? Prove it. Life starts at home. You wake up there in the morning, have dinner there at night, find solace in dark hours, and recover there when ill.
  
  Other things I keep
  
• A fully stocked (and I mean fully) first aid kit.
  
• A never ending supply of toilet paper and kleenex.
  
• Dry erase wall calendar.
  
  My hobbies are well demonstrated throughout the entirety of the pad, for example I have at least one bookcase in every room (one entire wall of the living room is well organized books). You can tell I like to read, and even what genres I like after walking inside.
  
  Clothes lying everywhere - remember that section about the bedroom where I said, “Get a hamper”? Clothes go in that hamper.
  
  I’m not going into the layout, the appliances, the exact furniture models, because all of that is dependent on your budget, lifestyle, location, tastes… I’d also recommend guys go check out the malelivingspace subreddit, I know reddit ain’t really the most RVF friendly place, but there’s some decent looking places guys have put together over there with a good amount of knowledge. There's also roomporn, which is pretty much the same thing.
  
  Example of a planned theme in action with prominent hobbies and interests (very hipster, but it’s just an example)
  http://imgur.com/a/PaF0E
  Simple theme, very effective
  http://i.imgur.com/vp4oQ5Yh.jpg
  Notice the theme that’s kept throughout the bachelor pad
  http://imgur.com/a/XlkvF
  Minimalist white theme
  http://imgur.com/xYSEt3U
  Guy clearly likes his plants
  http://imgur.com/a/HnLfJ
  Another example
  https://imgur.com/a/ZURJv

https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-28704.html

Bathroom
- keep your bathroom SURGICALLY CLEAN - before you fuck her, she's going to go in there and do whatever broads do before the 1st fuck.
- stock shit that you might not need, but she might - toothbrush, lens cleaners, hella toilet paper

Living room
- a couch that you can fuck on
- a throw blanket over the couch, so you can toss it over her, snuggle up - which can set "nature into motion" and give her plausible deniability
- a TV with netflix or on demand movies or a dvd player - you need a reason to sit down on the couch, chat, and drink wine
- liquor - you'll have to buy stuff that you like, and stuff that she likes. Often they aren't the same thing

Bedroom
- cheap mattress is fine, good sheets and pillows are non-negotiable. And if you value your sleep, rest, and workouts - get a good mattress

Kitchen
- have the standards - pots, pans, plates, silverware
- keep food in your fridge
- keep your kitchen SPOTLESS - remember she's going to be making you eggs in the morning

Game Tweaks
- NO CLOCKS ANYWHERE. That SHINING RED 2:23 AM is going to remind her that she needs to leave, so she can relieve her baby sitter, go to work, wake up her husband in the morning.

- Keep your shoes by the door, so that she gets in the habit of taking off her shoes. (once she starts there, everything is easier)

- Condoms EVERYWHERE

- Keep your whole spot smelling good - i.e. your work out clothes need to not be stanking up your room. Scented Candles, bake some chocolate chip cookies before you roll, bread...something to flavor the air.

- Candles and Incense + Music are not a bad idea.
- Art on the wall helps

On the fence
- the picture of your wife/S.O - jury is out
- a closet full of women's clothes - jury is out
- random female paraphernalia just lying around - jury is out

As for the overall look, start following interior decoration, architecture, and men's wear tumblrs. You'll get plenty of ideas on what you want your spot to look like.

WIA

https://www.rooshvforum.com/showthread.php?tid=2628

have an outdoor shower that I owe the sex I had tonight to.

There are a bunch of bikinis and fancy soaps and shampoo bottles in there. Most of them are empty. I just watch to make sure that I carry the girls out so they leave the bathing suits in there so as to not diminish the supply. I don't know why, but there's a real big one that thank god is all dry and crusty. Lots of times when girls have their own, I still get them out and they wind up leaving them, and the cycle continues.

I think location is more important than anything else. I got a big screen tv and loud ass stereo but those rarely get turned on until the next morning. The best thing about my house is the beach. Instead of telling girls at the bar to come over and play with my lava lamp I tell them to come over and swim. It's either a clothing removing and into less, or just none at all type of activity.

The other thing I have is a hot tub I got off craigslist for $200. Girls love it. Again, it's a take your clothes off thing to do. The problem with it is now that I'm a little older I get in there, then I burn something, and get way to relaxed and just want to sleep. I think the best part of the hot tub was me learning how to do plumbing when I hooked it up. After that I re-did one bathroom and added another, the sex I got from it is secondary.

Aloha!

Another element of a right bachelor pad is not overdoing it. We were throwing a party at my new place and one of the girls I was with stumbled into my roommate's room while looking for the bathroom. Inside everything was ultra clean, there were lit candles and smooth jazz playing and my roommate was nowhere to be found.

When she saw it, she got super timid and said she felt freaked out. The thing that probably gave her the jump was the fact that the room was ready for zero to bang. A better bet would probably be to set up the music, candles, etc AFTER you bring someone back to make it feel more natural.

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For my own space, I have some framed art and travel souvenirs but am mostly starting over. Multiple entrances, parking lots, and elevators for cover. Kitchen is spacious but a simple layout with a breakfast bar, ideal for letting dates make me pancakes then get shoved out the door with a story about work. Going to equip it in a minimalist way with high-quality stuff, so it looks like a bigger deal than it is but mainly serves up prepared meals and blended drinks.

Also mixing it up and moving away from my old style of very contemporary American furniture in neutral tones. Was a nice space but always looked like I bought everyone at once in the same store. Instead, I'm going to use some rich, darker colors, and older styles that I like, because the whole place is already neutral and contemporary. Hoping it’ll end up looking like I’ve lived in it for a few centuries and accumulated random evidence of a fun life.

Few things I'm shooting for:

- Converting the full-tile bathroom into a Japanese spa vibe. Found a source for one of those cypress board mats to put at the walk-in shower and some woven waffle towels, including a big bath sheet for girls who want to lounge without getting dressed.

- Minimalist bedroom. There's a walk-in closet and I don't need a dresser, but I am going to put in a matching bedroom bench from a nice masculine bedroom set and a full-length wall mirror, which will be both a convenient place to put on shoes and also a cover story for why there's a mirror aimed at the bed. Have a carefully-selected luxurious and bouncy mattress scheduled.

- Spectacular floor-to-ceiling window that I'm going to build out with an old-school 1960s-style bar/bookcase with some unusual liquor choices, my desk looking out at the weather, and probably a telescope to eyeball the plebs living on the bad side of town and be judgmental.

Logistics on the place are not perfect, but good, and if I stay there long enough, they're literally putting in an entire nursing school down the street.

[billydingdong]

Timely post and great information.

I've been remodeling an apartment unit that's by a lake. I'm going for an overall eclectic rustic look, but I'll have a few midcentury pieces thrown in.

When I began the project, I had little idea where to start and the book Step-By-Step Home Design and Decoration by Clare Steel helped me out a lot in terms of giving me an idea of the possibilities of what could be done - everything from flooring to faucets. The information is incredibly well organized and it's nicely illustrated . You can find it yourself by searching at libgen.

One thing I noticed missing here was the Study/Library. So I'll add it here below.

Study/Library

• Medium to large desk with drawers to stash miscellaneous files and docs out of sight. I've always been of the opinion that very small desks inspire impoverished thought and it's just easier to think when you have a large, clear desk.
  
  
• Comfortable desk chair that promotes good posture.
  
  
• Bookshelf loaded with books - The more books the better. Books give a quiet, scholarly effect and an air of gravity to a space. https://bookshelfporn.com/
  
  
• Reading chair w/ side table. You'll want the side table for your tea/coffee/juice and to put aside your notepad/laptop.
  
  
• Overhead lighting and task lighting at all places where tasks can be done (that is: on the desk, by the chair, and by the daybed if you opt for one)
  
  
• Simple radio/speaker for listening to podcasts, music, or other audio content.
  
  
• Sparse decoration on the wall. Maybe one or two a hung photos or portraits. You don't want distractions in this room.
  
  
• Optional: Daybed sofa for a little recovery nap.
  

[Hypno]

For bed room furniture and other wood furniture (as contrasted with sofas, mattresses, etc.) check out Craigslist. Used wood furniture is nearly as good as new, and a fraction of the cost. The savings is particulary good on higher end furniture, and you get quality used bedroom furniture for half of what new average quality furniture goes for.

Here is an example:
https://losangeles.craigslist.org/lgb/fu...45874.html

[Jetset]

For bed room furniture and other wood furniture (as contrasted with sofas, mattresses, etc.) check out Craigslist.  Used wood furniture is nearly as good as new, and a fraction of the cost.  The savings is particulary good on higher end furniture, and you get quality used bedroom furniture for half of what new average quality furniture goes for.

For U.S. shoppers, there are also some online used furniture marketplaces like kaiyo.com, which can have decent items from the various higher-end Asterisk & Semicolon brands (Crate & Barrel, Room & Board, etc.) at less than half of retail. Transportation costs are a factor, but if you've got something specific in mind, it's a place to look.

Also, the Raymour & Flanagan outlet section of the website can be like stealing. I picked up three bar stools that are much higher quality than the Amazon Furniture versions at half the price. They probably won't budge on prices for the outlet stuff, but adding it to a package might be some leverage to get a full-price item marked down in a store.

[Suits]

I'm strongly preferential towards having a large living room, even if it means everything else is smaller. I don't need a large bedroom (what am I going to do in there other than sleep?) and having a spare bedroom for guests or as an office is a nice bonus, but hardly worth paying for, unless you work from how 80%+ of the time. Personally, I've had success working out of even tiny living rooms previously (it forces you to stay organized, which is a bonus), so I'd rather have the extra living room space for hosting.

The living room is ground zero of your social bachelor experience. It's where you are going to host your Bible studies, group prayer circles and lunches with folks from church. You'll want to go for a décor that is conducive to praying the sinner's prayer and you'll want lots of extra throw pillows to make extended periods of kneeling more comfortable.

Personally, I like to have one bookshelf for all of my fiction and academic volumes and a larger, separate one for all of my Bibles.

Something like this:



This isn't your mom's living room! For a modern twist, try painting encouraging spiritual words and Bible verses directly on walls.





Having these reminders everywhere in your bachelor pad will help you to resist the temptations of the flesh (don't give in!) and seek righteousness instead.

[Jetset]

Having these reminders everywhere in your bachelor pad will help you to resist the temptations of the flesh (don't give in!) and seek righteousness instead.

If you don't have Christ on the cross glaring directly down at her as she contemplates taking her top off, what kind of a setup are you even running?

In all seriousness, I'm happy about the layout I've got. It's one long living space with a kitchen on the back wall and the huge factory window on the center of the long wall. With the setup I have in mind, you'll enter and come out of the hallway into a sitting area encircling the television, then my office/library/study space behind it in the window, then the kitchen where you can see across the whole thing. Bedroom comes off the kitchen, so if I get a girl hanging out at the kitchen counter island for a glass of wine, the bed is actually physically closer than the sofa.

[billydingdong]

Good call on the Bible Room. I've found that when I'm getting uphill from a girl, it's nice to have quick access to the good book and just start reading passages from Deuteronomy. Gets her all worked up and ready to take that Blue Vein Throbber.

Anyways, having a dedicated study/home office room is not essential but well worth it if you (a) have the means (b) are a little bit older or (c ) work remote. Younger people should mostly be out and about, but at this point for me in my mid 30's and finding myself wanting longer breaks away from girls and the world in general, it's become my favorite room in the house. 

Jetset sounds like he's doing it right with an open floor plan and floor-to-ceiling giant window. Nothing enlivens a home like abundant natural light and undivided space. Hat tip for the  https://www.reddit.com/r/malelivingspace/ recommendation

One other thing I'll mention that I found useful was creating a vision board of interior concepts that you like. It should include a couple photos of a general aesthetic and more specific clips + notes on the finishes/textures/colors. Here is a good example of one.

[Suits]

Anyways, having a dedicated study/home office room is not essential but well worth it if you (a) have the means (b) are a little bit older or (c ) work remote. Younger people should mostly be out and about, but at this point for me in my mid 30's and finding myself wanting longer breaks away from  girls and the world in general, it's  become my favorite room in the house. 

If my work visa for China ever comes through, I'll be back in Beijing sometime this year with the means to afford a very decent place for myself.

However, with student debt still to pay down and a desire to fund other important side-projects, I'm not going to be getting an apartment that has everything that I'd want in a perfect world.

Given the choice between a large living room and having an office/guest room, I'd rather have the large living room. It can serve as an office and a guest room in a pinch, but an extra bedroom can't become a larger living room.

If I stay within budget for a year, all my debt will be paid off and then if I want a nicer place, I can do it then (or alternatively, just put a ton of money in the bank for the future).

[Jetset]

So far I'm almost month in and still have a lot of work to do, but have gotten a lot of positive feedback for the two notches and one candidate that have been through.

Highest-quality piece of information I've found for setting up a comfortable space is this low-maintenance design for putting together a puffy, high-comfort, all-season bed like you see in magazines:

https://www.garnethill.com/threadsbygarn...asy-steps/

Concept is simple: get a duvet with a puffy warm insert, an attractive blanket (probably a quilt), and a set of quality sheets.

Summer: blanket over sheets with an interesting, soft throw blanket at the foot of the bed to make it more interesting.
Spring/Fall: blanket over sheets with the big duvet at the foot of the bed.
Winter: duvet over sheets with the blanket at the foot of the bed.

This not only looks good and inviting, but requires only minimal washing of anything but the sheets, and keeps everything handy for 3:00 am temperature changes if she has to go home or a storm rolls in.

I've got this in "fall mode" until the snow starts, with high-quality linen sheets that don't trap heat and moisture. They're not as soft as most cotton but sleep easier and don't get sweaty during sex. I'm using a sleep tracker and my measurements are through the roof, and both women complained that they're more comfortable here than they are at home. It was easy enough that one rearranged the blankets when she got too hot and didn't remember doing it.

[WombRaider]

Personally, I like to have one bookshelf for all of my fiction and academic volumes and a larger, separate one for all of my Bibles.

Why not a whole room for Bibles? To me it feels icky to have them near secular works.

[Suits]

Personally, I like to have one bookshelf for all of my fiction and academic volumes and a larger, separate one for all of my Bibles.

Why not a whole room for Bibles? To me it feels icky to have them near secular works.

I actually do not have any secular books, only Bibles and commentaries. And of course a first edition autographed version of I Kissed Dating Goodbye.