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Top Dating Tips for Older Men – Guest Post

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So for any older men out there, we have a guest post for you. Enjoy.

Top Dating Tips for Older Men

When I was in my 20’s, I used to wonder how can all these beautiful women around my age end up with guys in their 30’s and 40’s. It just didn’t make any sense to me, I asked myself:”what do they see in these old guys”? But now, I understand.

Older men possess a number of characteristics that young girls find attractive. They look more confident, calm, established, they are more sexually experienced.

But one thing is crucial – women feel safer around them!

Ask any woman who loves older men, every one of them will say that the best thing about guys in their 40’s and 50’s is that they feel safe around them. Their vibe is different then guys their age.

This guest post is for you guys in your 40’s or 50’s who want to date women in their early to mid 20’s. I think that 25% of women have a thing for older men, 25% would never date one and that’s ok and around 50% of girls can date both older guys and guys their own age.

While things that attract women never change, there are certain changes you will need to change in your game.

Anyway, I can advise as follows:

Chat with everyone

Obviously, when you are 45 you can’t really do the street game. Stopping a girl on the middle of the street trying to get her number won’t look good.

So, where do you meet women?


Get in the habit of talking to women everywhere you go. Talk with the waitress, talk with the women around you while waiting in line for something, talk to your hot neighbor in the elevator, talk to that sweet girl that’s working in Starbuck. You will soon realize that attractive and fun girls are all over the place just waiting for you to flirt with them. And be ballsy, ask girls out half-jokingly to see where you at.

As time goes, you will get better in flirting with girls you see for the first time in your life. And that will open a whole new universe you didn’t even know exist.

Dress well and have manners

Being well dressed is an indicator of your status and your sophistication. She will look at your shoes, if they are cheap, or even scuffed, you aren’t getting any. Dress your age, do not dress “young”. Get suited, dress successfully, in your own style. It’s very crucial for you to get the good first impression when it comes to meeting girls.

Pro tip: Being a gentleman, opening a door for your woman and stuff like that will make you look more alpha when you are older. If you are in your 20’s there is no need for that and it may look like you are needy or beta, but if you are older, this stuff can only help you with your success rate.

You will have to deal with shaming

For example, in Europe, nobody cares who you date. In the US, if the girl is away from home, then she probably isn’t going to be as tense about it. It’s up to a girl if she wants to keep me as a secret, I don’t mind. So, how do you deal with shaming? Well, you will mostly get shamed by girls who are afraid that their beta boyfriend will get an idea of leaving her for a younger girl, so they will do it out of fear. I simply shut them up. Literally.

Another thing you are going to experience is a bunch of shit tests where girls will say something like  “you are old enough to be my father”. Remember, just turn the age difference to your advantage! Tell her something like this: “What would your dad say if he knew you were alone with a man my age?”. They usually answer “My father won’t tell me what I can and can’t do”.

And there you planted a seed in her mind. Now she can sleep with you just to prove that point. Continue to tease her in that way and see what happens.

Stay fit

In a nation of overweight people, keeping fit will set you apart from the crowd. It’s very important to go to the gym regularly. How many guys do you know in your 40’s and 50’s that look good? Most of them are fat and unhealthy.

There is no such thing that can make a young teen wet as a jacked older dude. Why? Because it’s a damn hard job to look jacked when you are 50 years old. 

Don’t try to look young

This is the biggest mistake I see older men are doing. They try to sound and behave like they are in their 20’s. Dude, first of all, if a girl wants a 25-year-old, she won’t be talking to you. As a matter a fact, she is expecting from you to behave older. To be wiser, to have interesting stories from your life, to be calm, smart and safe.

Don’t try to fit in in their social circle, you are not at college anymore and you should accept that. What you can do instead, is look for girls that have a thing for an older guy, and make contact with her. You are going to be surprised how easy can it be.

Online game

You should use the online game, there are billion apps for this. Tinder is a must because it’s the best app that is free. If you go outside the US, use Badoo also. Now, remember, girls love older men because they are not so needy. Don’t be needy in online game.

If you have money, try seekingarrangement, there are a lot of women looking for you, and if you look hard enough, you will find girls that won’t ask you for money on your first date.


If you are a 20 something guy, this article still can help you. But my best advice can be to train and care about your skin. Don’t shower with hot water, don’t expose your skin to the sun for too much, use coconut oil from time to time and that would be it.

We are all going to turn 50 years old, but it’s a great feeling to know that even when you do turn that age, you are still going to be able to get laid with girls in their 20’s. Everything is up to you, I’m just here to give you an advice and tell you what is possible.

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