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Why game is like chess

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Studying vs. Playing chess

If you want to get better at chess you will have to study it. There are many chess strategies consisting out of general principles that have been proven to be successful: Control the center, develop your pieces fast, don’t bring out your queen too early. The same applies to game, there are general principles that you should adhere that will improve your results: Display good body language, don’t show neediness, be in control of your frame.

But you won’t ever become a great chess player by just studying; you need to actually play it. You need to find a real opponent and try out these principles for yourself. Like chess is played on the board, the game is played in the field.

That doesn’t mean you should abandon books . Especially when you are starting out, the best way to improve is to have a good balance between studying and playing: You learn something – then you try it out. You will notice that your opponent doesn’t react exactly as you had read in your chess book – that’s okay – you try it again and again, until you get that technique down and make it your own. Studying chess problems and analyzing famous games can really speed up your progress. 

So does reading about game and reading other’s lay reports, the key is to take away from it what is useful for you and then go out and try it yourself.

A good chess player is about having the right mentality and his approach to learning and improving himself.

“Learn from your mistakes.
And learn from the mistakes of others.
Because you can never live long enough to make them all yourself!”


With great chess players it sometimes seems like they are able to think 10 steps ahead, but what truly sets apart the experts from the novices is not brute force calculation but knowledge. Chess experts are able to recognize positions on the board and they have already trained for those positions. They don’t have to think about every single possible move, because they can derive good moves their experience with similar positions. They have already made the wrong moves and know they will lead to a worsened position so they only have to consider the better options.

This directly applies to game as well. If you can draw from an experience for a certain situation you have faced numerous times before, you will know what mistakes to avoid since you have already made them. A girl threw a particularly nasty shit test at you and you failed it. On your way home you kept running through your head what went wrong and what you should have said or done.

The next time you run into the same situation again and boom: you nail it. The more experience you get, the more you start to recognize situations and patterns. The girl in front of you doesn’t see the path of trial and error you’ve walked, all she sees is a guy passing every shit test, a guy that always seems to have a witty answer ready and that knows exactly what to do at the right moment, a guy that’s totally control of the situation. She can’t help but feeling attracted to him.

In chess after three moves by each side there are over nine million possible positions. These vast numbers of possibilities bring beauty to chess and this is also the beauty in game. Every girl is different, acts different and responds differently, you will never run into the exact same situation twice. So besides your position-strategies, you always have to bring creativity to the board. 


Game is like Chess


Avoiding mistakes

An average chess game takes about 30 or 40 moves. You can make 30 good moves in a row and then one really bad one and lose the game. 

Improving your game is as much about making the right moves as it is about avoiding mistakes. Most sets are not lost by not making enough good moves but by making bad moves. As soon as you start interacting with a girl, it’s up to you not to fuck up.

“First learn to not lose, and then the wins will start to come.”
– A. Karpov

 That should be your starting point, if you are not aware about the common mistakes you are making, you’re guaranteed to make those same mistakes again. I will write about common mistakes to avoid in one of the upcoming posts.


Game styles

Your opponents will have different styles, some will prefer to play with their knights, others with their bishops; some will play very aggressively, others will slow it down and focus on positional gameplay. You have to be able to adapt your game to the opponent you’re facing. It’s good to know how to handle different kind of opponents.

Some girls will require a more soft and slow paced approach, while in other situations you need to be the alpha cavemanning madman. Applying the wrong style to your opponent will make you lose the game.

Having a versatile and flexible style will make you able to handle more opponents. So get out of your comfort zone and try something new from time to time, it may come in useful at an unexpected time.


Nothing is written in stone

Game: nothing is written in stone

Even if you don’t play chess you probably know your your queen is your most valuable piece on the board, if you lose your queen things are not looking great. You should keep the queen out of danger until the time is right and you can use this powerful piece to dominate the board. It’s a rule that makes perfect sense; yet for some situations sacrificing your queen can be the move that wins the game.

Also in game bold moves can have high pay-offs and no rules are written in stone. “I have to be alpha” is good, “I have to be alpha ALL OF THE TIME ALWAYS” could in some cases actually damage your game. The rules and the guiding principles are great references but you have always have to look at the pieces on the board; sometimes the right move for a position is the one that breaks all the “rules”.


End game

Both for chess and for game it’s important that you have good end game skills. The battle is behind you, the major pieces are off the board, the girl is in your apartment, but the game is not over yet.

If you don’t know how to checkmate, you’r opponent might get a chance to promote one of his pawns and you may still lose the game. Even if you have a huge dominance over you opponent, he can trick you into stalemate.

In game when you finally get her to your room, the preceding attraction and comfort you have built will determine the strength of her LMR (last minute resistance). Do not neglect your end game. With the right techniques you can make the difference between a heavy make-out session and a checkmate.

Checkmate LMR

“Chess is a fairy tale of 1001 blunders”
–S. Tartakower


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